Izindaba - Izinzuzo zezingane zokudlala ibhola lezinyawo

Izinzuzo zezingane zokudlala ibhola lezinyawo

U-Shankly, omunye wabaqeqeshi abakhulu kakhulu emlandweni we-Liverpool, wake wathi: "Ibhola alihlangene nokuphila nokufa, kodwa ngaphezu kokuphila nokufa", ukuhamba kwesikhathi, izinto zihlukile, kodwa lesi sisho esihlakaniphile siye saniselwa enhliziyweni, mhlawumbe leli yizwe elimibalabala lebhola lezinyawo. Ibhola lifundisa izingane ngaphezu kwalokho esikwaziyo!

Okokuqala, fundisa izingane ukuba ziqonde umoya wezemidlalo

Umoya kanobhutshuzwayo ungumoya weqembu, iyunithi yeqembu uma kukhona iqembu elihle nomoya omuhle wokuhlangana, kuzofana nokukhokhiswa kophondo, kunxenxa abantu phezulu, kugqugquzele wonke amalungu eqembu ukuthi aqhubekele phambili, alwele ukuba ngowokuqala, kwakhiwe umoya opholile wokuncintisana. Umoya weqembu ubuye ube iyunithi yokubumbana kweqembu lefulegi, uma kungekho ukubumbana, umgomo ucacile, ukuma okuhlangene akuyona i-synergy, kodwa futhi kungaba kuphela ukuhlala entabeni yengcebo ukubuya bengenalutho. Amafu asendulo: izinto zabuthana, abantu bahlukaniswa ngamaqembu. Iyunithi yokubumbana kweqembu nomoya omuhle weqembu kufana nefulegi elindizela phezulu, libiza wonke amalungu eqembu ngokuqaphela aqoqwe ngaphansi kwefulegi, ukuze afeze umgomo ofanayo weqembu futhi asebenze kanzima!
Ibhola likanobhutshuzwayo lizofundisa izingane ukugcina imithetho yomdlalo nokuthobela abaqeqeshi nonompempe. Ukuwina noma ukuhlulwa kuyinto yesibili ekwazini umoya wobungcweti bezemidlalo nokufunda ukuhlangabezana nayo yonke inselele ngendlela eqinisekile ngumnqobi wangempela. Eqinisweni, asilindele ukuthi izingane ziphelele noma ziwine imidlalo, kodwa kunalokho zifinyelele amandla azo aphelele ngokuqeqeshwa. Qonda umehluko phakathi "kokudlala nje" kanye "nokwenza konke okusemandleni abo".

 

Fundisa ingane yakho ukubekezela

Ukubekezela akukhona ukungabi nesineke, ukungabi nesithukuthezi, kanye nokukwazi ukubekezelela into engase ibe isicefe futhi eyisicefe. Ibhola likanobhutshuzwayo ngomunye wemidlalo evivinya isineke kakhulu, engafundisa izingane ukuthi ukugijima ngakunye, ukuconsa ngakunye, ishothi ngalinye aliholeli ngempela ekutholeni amaphuzu. Kepha kufanele ulungele konke ngaphambi kokuthi uphumelele ukuze uwine!

Okwesithathu, fundisa ingane yakho ukuhlonipha nokubhekana nokuwina nokulahlekelwa

Enkundleni yebhola, izingane zizohlangana nabaphikisi abahlukene, zizoshayisana nempilo ehlukene, ukuze zizazi kangcono futhi zizihlole. Okwesibili, akwanele ukuthi izingane zizizwe ziwina futhi zihlulwe nje ebholeni likanobhutshuzwayo, indlela yokuwina nokulahlekelwa ngomusa yikho okufanele izingane zikufunde. Akekho othanda umuzwa wokulahlekelwa umdlalo, kodwa okubaluleke kakhulu, ukuthi ulahlekelwa kanjani ngomusa. Ngokuvamile kuba nzima ukufunda noma yini lapho siwina, futhi lapho sihlulwa, singahlala sicabanga ukuthi singenza kanjani kangcono ngokuzayo.

Okwesine, fundisa izingane indlela yokuxhumana

Ukuxhumana kuyinqubo yokudlulisa nokubuyisela emuva imicabango nemizwa phakathi kwabantu, phakathi kwabantu namaqembu, ukuze kufinyelelwe esivumelwaneni ngemicabango nemizwa ebushelelezi. Ibhola likanobhutshuzwayo lincike kakhulu emidlalweni edidiyelwe, kumele uxhumane nomqeqeshi, nozakwabo, ngisho nendlela yokubhekana nonompempe. Inkundla yebhola njengokungathi umphakathi wokuphila, uthembele kumuntu omiselwe ukungamamatheka kuze kube sekugcineni.

Okwesihlanu, fundisa izingane ukunamathela okholweni

Namathela ezinkolelweni zabo kanye nendlela yokusebenzelana nabantu nezinkolelo. Izinkolelo zingabantu ekuqondeni okuthile ngesisekelo senkolelo-mbono ethile, imfundiso kanye nemibono ephethwe umqondo ongantengantengi kanye nokukholelwa okuqotho kanye nokusetshenziswa okuqinile kwesimo sengqondo. Ibhola lenza ingane ibone ukuthi uma isizibophezele, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuya kuyo yonke imidlalo. Hhayi nje ngoba sikhokhele lezi zinhlelo, kodwa okubaluleke kakhulu: ukubekezela nokugxila enganeni kuyisifundo esibaluleke kakhulu empilweni yakhe.

 

 

 

Fundisa ingane yakho ukusebenzisana

Ukusebenzisana kuwumoya wokubambisana wokuzithandela nomzamo obumbene obonakala lapho iqembu lenza umcimbi othile. Amakhono okuphasa nokugijima ebhola likanobhutshuzwayo avumela izingane ukuba ziqonde ngokujulile ukubaluleka kokusebenzisana njengeqembu. Ayikho impumelelo engafinyelelwa ngaphandle kokubambisana okusebenzayo nokuseduze.

Vumela izingane zivalelise emikhubeni emibi

Ibhola likanobhutshuzwayo lisebenzisa zonke izici zekhono lengane yakho, futhi okubaluleke kakhulu, liyivumela ukuba isisebenzise ngokugcwele isikhathi sayo esikhululekile. Lapho ingane yakho ingenanto yokwenza, ukugqolozela umdlalo akukuyeki, ibhola liyoba “ukubuyisana” okungcono kakhulu kwempilo.

 

 

Okwesishiyagalombili, thuthukisa ukuqonda kwengane

I-Insight isho ikhono lokungena ezintweni noma ezinkingeni, ikhono lokunquma ngokunembile ingqikithi yomuntu ngokusebenzisa izenzakalo ezingaphezulu. Emazwini kaFreud, ukuqonda kuwukushintsha ukuquleka kube ukwazi, ukufunda ukusebenzisa izimiso nemibono ye-psychology ukufingqa ukuziphatha komuntu, into elula ukuyenza ukubuka amagama, ukubheka umbala. Eqinisweni, ukuqonda empeleni kuxubene kakhulu nekhono lokuhlaziya nokwahlulela, kungathiwa ukuqonda kuyikhono elibanzi. Ekuqeqesheni ibhola, izingane zizogxilisa ukunaka kwazo emaqhingeni ahlelwa umqeqeshi, umoya wazo wokuncintisana, futhi zizothuthukisa ukuqina nokuqina kwazo ngemva kokubhekana nezingqinamba nokwehluleka, ukuze zifunde ukungadikibali.
Ibhola likanobhutshuzwayo liwumdlalo ongcono kakhulu wokuthuthukisa ukuqonda kwezingane kwezemidlalo, intshisekelo yezemidlalo, imikhuba yezemidlalo kanye nezinga lezemidlalo eliphelele ngesikhathi esibucayi sokuthuthuka, ibhola likanobhutshuzwayo linendima ebalulekile ekukhuleni kwezingane.

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