UShankly, omunye wabaqeqeshi abakhulu emlandweni weLiverpool, wake wathi: “Ibhola alinalutho oluphathelene nokuphila nokufa, kodwa ngale kokuphila nokufa”, ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, izinto zihlukile, kodwa lesi sisho esihlakaniphile sifakwe enhliziyweni, mhlawumbe leli yizwe elinemibala yebhola. Ibhola lifundisa izingane okungaphezu kwalokho esikwaziyo!
Okokuqala, fundisa izingane ukuqonda umoya wezemidlalo
Umoya webhola ngumoya weqembu, iyunithi yeqembu uma kukhona iqembu elihle nomoya weqembu omuhle, kuzoba njengokushaja uphondo, kunxusa abantu phezulu, kugqugquzele wonke amalungu eqembu ukuthi aqhubekele phambili, elwela ukuba ngowokuqala, ukwakheka komoya wokuncintisana ongemuhle. Umoya weqembu futhi uyiyunithi yobumbano lweqembu lefulegi, uma kungekho ubumbano, umgomo ucacile, ukuma okuhlangene akuyona ubumbano, kodwa futhi kungahlala kuphela entabeni yengcebo ukubuya okungenalutho. Amafu asendulo: izinto eziqoqiwe, abantu bahlukaniswe ngamaqembu. Iyunithi yobumbano lweqembu nomoya omuhle weqembu ifana nefulegi elindiza phezulu, libiza wonke amalungu eqembu aqoqene ngamabomu ngaphansi kwefulegi, ukuze kufezwe umgomo ofanayo weqembu futhi asebenze kanzima!
Ibhola lizofundisa izingane ukulandela imithetho yomdlalo nokulalela abaqeqeshi kanye nonompempe. Ukuwina noma ukuhlulwa kulandela ukwazi umoya wobungcweti kwezemidlalo nokufunda ukubhekana nayo yonke inselele ngendlela enhle ngumnqobi wangempela. Eqinisweni, asilindele ukuthi izingane ziphelele noma ziwine imidlalo, kodwa kunalokho zifinyelele amakhono azo aphelele ngokuqeqeshwa. Qonda umehluko phakathi "kokudlala nje" kanye "nokwenza konke okusemandleni azo".
Fundisa ingane yakho ukubekezela
Ukubekezela akukhona ukubekezela, ukungakhathazeki, nokukwazi ukuphikelela ngento engase ibe yisicefe kakhulu futhi eyisicefe. Ibhola likanobhutshuzwayo lingenye yezemidlalo ezivivinya kakhulu ukubekezela, ezingafundisa izingane ukuthi ukugijima ngakunye, ukujikijela ngakunye, ukushaya ngakunye akuholeli emaphuzu. Kodwa kufanele ulungele konke ngaphambi kokuthi uphumelele ukuze uwine!
Okwesithathu, fundisa ingane yakho ukuhlonipha nokubhekana nokunqoba nokuhlulwa
Enkundleni yebhola, izingane zizohlangana nabaphikisi abahlukene, zizobhekana nokuphila okuhlukile, ukuze zizazi kangcono futhi zizihlole. Okwesibili, akwanele ukuthi izingane zizwe ukuwina nokulahlekelwa ebholeni kuphela, indlela yokuwina nokulahlekelwa ngomusa yilokho izingane okudingeka zikufunde. Akekho othanda umuzwa wokulahlekelwa umdlalo, kodwa okubaluleke kakhulu, indlela yokulahlekelwa ngomusa. Ngokuvamile kunzima ukufunda noma yini uma siwina, futhi uma sihlulwa, singacabanga njalo ukuthi singenza kanjani kangcono ngesikhathi esizayo.
Okwesine, fundisa izingane indlela yokuxhumana
Ukuxhumana kuyinqubo yokudlulisa nokubuyisela imicabango nemizwa phakathi kwabantu, phakathi kwabantu namaqembu, ukuze kufinyelelwe esivumelwaneni ngemicabango nemizwa ebushelelezi. Ibhola lincike kakhulu kwezemidlalo ezihlangene, kumele uxhumane nomqeqeshi, kanye nabalingani beqembu, ngisho nendlela yokusebenzelana nompempe. Inkundla yebhola njengomphakathi wokuphila, thembela kumuntu omiselwe ukungamomotheki kuze kube sekupheleni.
Ezinhlanu, fundisa izingane ukunamathela okholweni
Banamathele ezinkolelweni zabo kanye nendlela yabo yokusebenzelana nabantu kanye nezinkolelo. Izinkolelo ngabantu abanokuqonda okuthile ngesisekelo semfundiso ethile yemibono, imfundiso kanye nemibono ephethwe ngumqondo ongaguquki kanye nokuqiniseka okuqotho kanye nokusetshenziswa okuqinile kwesimo sengqondo. Ibhola lezinyawo lenza ingane iqaphele ukuthi uma izibophezele, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuya kuyo yonke imikhuba. Hhayi ngoba nje sikhokhele lezi zinhlelo, kodwa okubaluleke kakhulu: ukuphikelela nokugxila kwengane kuyisifundo esibaluleke kakhulu empilweni yayo.
Fundisa ingane yakho ukusebenza ngokubambisana
Ukusebenza ngokubambisana kuwumoya wokubambisana ngokuzithandela kanye nomzamo ohlangene obonakala lapho iqembu lifeza umcimbi ohleliwe. Amakhono okudlula nokugijima ebhola lezinyawo avumela izingane ukuba ziqonde ngokujulile ukubaluleka kokusebenza njengeqembu. Ayikho impumelelo engatholakala ngaphandle kokusebenza njengeqembu okuphumelelayo nokuseduze.
Vumela izingane zivalelise emikhubeni emibi
Ibhola lisebenzisa zonke izici zekhono lengane yakho, futhi okubaluleke kakhulu, liyivumela ukuthi isebenzise kahle isikhathi sayo esikhululekile. Uma ingane yakho ingenamsebenzi, ukubuka umdlalo akukuvumeli, ibhola lizoba “ukubuyisana” okuhle kakhulu empilweni.
Isishiyagalombili, thuthukisa ukuqonda kwengane
Ukuqonda kubhekisela ekhonweni lokungena ezintweni noma ezinkingeni, yikhono lokunquma ngokunembile ingqikithi yomuntu ngokusebenzisa izimo zangaphandle. Ngamazwi kaFreud, ukuqonda ukushintsha okungazi lutho kube okuqaphelayo, ukufunda ukusebenzisa izimiso nemibono yezengqondo ukufingqa ukuziphatha komuntu, into elula kakhulu ukukwenza ukubheka amagama, ukubheka umbala. Eqinisweni, ukuqonda empeleni kuxubene kakhulu nekhono lokuhlaziya nokwahlulela, kungashiwo ukuthi ukuqonda kuyikhono eliphelele. Ekuqeqeshweni kwebhola, izingane zizogxila ekugxileni kwamaqhinga ahlelwe ngumqeqeshi, umoya wazo wokuncintisana, futhi zizothuthukisa ukuqina kwazo nokuqina ngemva kokubhekana nobunzima nokwehluleka, ukuze zifunde ukungalokothi ziyeke.
Ibhola likanobhutshuzwayo liwumdlalo ongcono kakhulu wokuhlakulela ukuqonda kwezemidlalo kwezingane, intshisekelo kwezemidlalo, imikhuba yezemidlalo kanye nekhwalithi ephelele yezemidlalo ngesikhathi esibucayi sentuthuko, ibhola likanobhutshuzwayo linendima ebalulekile ekukhuleni kwezingane.
Umshicileli:
Isikhathi sokuthunyelwe: Agasti-30-2024
