Iingenelo zokudlala ibhola ekhatywayo ebantwaneni

UShankly, omnye wabaqeqeshi ababalaseleyo kwimbali yaseLiverpool, wakha wathi: “Ibhola ekhatywayo ayinanto yakwenza nobomi nokufa, kodwa ngaphaya kobomi nokufa”, ngokuhamba kwexesha, izinto zahlukile, kodwa esi saci silumkileyo siye safakwa entliziyweni, mhlawumbi eli lihlabathi elinemibala yebhola ekhatywayo. Ibhola ekhatywayo ifundisa abantwana okungaphezulu kakhulu kunokuba sisazi!

Okokuqala, fundisa abantwana ukuqonda umoya wezemidlalo

Umoya webhola ekhatywayo ngumoya weqela, iyunithi yeqela ukuba kukho iqela elihle kunye nomoya weqela elihle, kuya kuba njengokuhlasela kwexilongo, kubongoza abantu ukuba banyuke, kukhuthaze wonke umntu weqela ukuba aqhubeke phambili, ezama ukuba ngowokuqala, ukwakhiwa komoya wokhuphiswano olungenabungozi. Umoya weqela ukwaliyunithi yomanyano lweqela leflegi, ukuba akukho manyano, injongo icacile, imo edibeneyo ayisiyo intsebenziswano, kodwa inokuhlala kuphela entabeni yobuncwane ibuya ingenanto. Amafu amandulo: izinto eziqokelelweyo, abantu bahlulwe baba ngamaqela. Iyunithi yomanyano lweqela kunye nomoya weqela elihle ifana neflegi ebhabha phezulu, ibiza wonke umntu weqela ukuba aqokelele phantsi kweflegi ngabom, ukuze kufezekiswe injongo efanayo yeqela kwaye asebenze nzima!
Ibhola ekhatywayo iya kufundisa abantwana ukuba bathobele imithetho yomdlalo baze bathobele abaqeqeshi kunye noosompempe. Ukuphumelela okanye ukuphulukana kulandela ukwazi umoya wobukrelekrele kwezemidlalo nokufunda ukuhlangabezana nayo yonke imingeni ngendlela eyakhayo ngulo ophumeleleyo ngokwenene. Enyanisweni, asilindeli ukuba abantwana bagqibelele okanye baphumelele imidlalo, kodwa endaweni yoko bafikelele kumandla abo apheleleyo ngoqeqesho. Qonda umahluko phakathi "kokudlala nje" kunye "nokwenza konke okusemandleni abo".

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Fundisa umntwana wakho ukuba nomonde

Umonde asikokuba nomonde, ukungadinwa, nokukwazi ukunyamezela into enokuba yingxaki kwaye ikruqulayo. Ibhola ekhatywayo yenye yemidlalo evavanya umonde kakhulu, enokufundisa abantwana ukuba ukubaleka ngakunye, ukujija ngakunye, yonke into ayibangeli amanqaku. Kodwa kufuneka ulungele yonke into ngaphambi kokuba uphumelele!

Okwesithathu, fundisa umntwana wakho ukuba ahloniphe aze ajongane nokuphumelela nokuphulukana

Kwibala lebhola ekhatywayo, abantwana baya kudibana nabachasi abahlukeneyo, baya kungqubana nobomi obahlukeneyo, ukuze baziqonde ngcono baze bazihlole. Okwesibini, akwanelanga ukuba abantwana bafumane ukuphumelela nokuphulukana nebhola ekhatywayo kuphela, indlela yokuphumelela nokuphulukana nethamsanqa yinto ekufuneka abantwana bayifunde. Akukho mntu uthanda imvakalelo yokuphulukana nomdlalo, kodwa okubaluleke ngakumbi, indlela yokuphulukana nethamsanqa. Kudla ngokuba nzima ukufunda nantoni na xa siphumelela, kwaye xa siphulukana, sinokucinga ngendlela yokwenza ngcono kwixesha elizayo.

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Okwesine, fundisa abantwana indlela yokunxibelelana

Unxibelelwano yinkqubo yokudlulisela nokondla iingcinga neemvakalelo phakathi kwabantu, phakathi kwabantu namaqela, ukuze kufikelelwe kwisivumelwano ngeengcinga neemvakalelo ezithambileyo. Ibhola ekhatywayo yeyona ixhomekeke kakhulu kwimidlalo edibeneyo, kufuneka unxibelelane nomqeqeshi, kunye nabadlali beqela, kwanendlela yokujongana nompempe. Ibala lebhola ekhatywayo njengobomi boluntu, thembela kumntu omiselwe ukuba angancumi kude kube sekupheleni.

Ezintlanu, fundisa abantwana ukuba banamathele elukholweni

Babambelele kwiinkolelo zabo kunye nendlela abasebenzisana ngayo nabantu kunye neenkolelo zabo. Iinkolelo ngabantu abanokuqonda okuthile ngesiseko sethiyori ethile yembono, imfundiso kunye neengcamango ezigcinwe yingcamango engagungqiyo kunye nokuqiniseka okunyanisekileyo kunye nokuphunyezwa okuqinileyo kwesimo sengqondo. Ibhola ekhatywayo yenza umntwana aqonde ukuba ukuba uzibophelele, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuya kuyo yonke inkqubo. Kungekuphela nje ngokuba sizihlawulele ezi nkqubo, kodwa okubaluleke ngakumbi: ukunyamezela nokugxila kumntwana sisifundo esibaluleke kakhulu ebomini bakhe.

Ibala lebhola ekhatywayo lekheji epheleleyo elenziwe ngokwezifiso

Fundisa umntwana wakho ukusebenzisana

Ukusebenzisana njengeqela ngumoya wentsebenziswano yokuzithandela kunye nomzamo odibeneyo obonakala xa iqela liphumeza umsitho othile. Izakhono zokupasa nokubaleka zebhola ekhatywayo zivumela abantwana ukuba baqonde nzulu ukubaluleka kokusebenza njengeqela. Akukho mpumelelo inokufikelelwa ngaphandle kokusebenza njengeqela okusebenzayo nokusondeleyo.

Vumela abantwana bavalelise kwimikhwa emibi

Ibhola ekhatywayo iqhelisa zonke iinkalo zesakhono somntwana wakho, kwaye okona kubaluleke kakhulu, imenza akwazi ukusebenzisa kakuhle ixesha lakhe lokuphumla. Xa umntwana wakho engenanto yakwenza, ukujonga umdlalo akumyeki, ibhola ekhatywayo iya kuba “luxolelwaniso” oluhle ebomini.

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Isibhozo, phucula ukuqonda komntwana

Ingqiqo ibhekisa kubuchule bokungena kwizinto okanye kwiingxaki, kukukwazi ukuchonga ngokuchanekileyo intsingiselo yomntu ngokusebenzisa izinto ezingaphandle. Ngamazwi kaFreud, ukuqonda kukutshintsha umntu ongaziyo abe ngumntu oqondayo, kukufunda ukusebenzisa imigaqo kunye nembono yengqondo ukushwankathela indlela abantu abaziphatha ngayo, into elula kukujonga amagama, ukujonga umbala. Enyanisweni, ukuqonda kuxutywe ngakumbi nokukwazi ukuhlalutya nokugweba, kunokuthiwa ukuqonda kubuchule obupheleleyo. Kuqeqesho lwebhola ekhatywayo, abantwana baya kugxininisa ingqalelo yabo kumaqhinga alungiselelwe ngumqeqeshi, umoya wabo wokhuphiswano, kwaye baya kuphuhlisa ubulukhuni babo kunye nokuqina emva kokudibana neengxaki kunye nokusilela, ukuze bafunde ukungayeki.
Ibhola ekhatywayo yeyona mdlalo ilungileyo yokukhulisa ulwazi lwezemidlalo lwabantwana, umdla kwezemidlalo, imikhwa yezemidlalo kunye nomgangatho opheleleyo wezemidlalo ngexesha elibalulekileyo lophuhliso, ibhola ekhatywayo inendima ebalulekileyo ekukhuleni kwabantwana.